Dear Abby: Friend spent 30 years hating her dad. Why did she expect condolences when he died?

Dear Abby: A friend’s wife’s elderly biological father was killed in a one-car auto accident recently. She had been estranged from him for as long as I can remember (more than 30 years?) and told me over the years how much she hated him. She adored her stepfather, who died a few years back.