Dear Abby: I'm in love with a woman 35 years older than me. What will her kids say?

Dear Abby: I’m in love with an older woman. I’m 41, and she is about 35 years older. I have known her since I was a kid. She’s the reason I always dated older women. I want to tell her how I feel, but I’m scared she’ll be shocked, and I wouldn’t want anyone else to find out my feelings, like her kids. I grew up with them.